His metaphor for heartbreak involves the F's we do not like to face: fear, failure, and frustration. How do we make Friends with them? Also, we must learn what they have to offer us without pushing away. A Ferocity in our attitude keeps us patient through the minor f's. This involves the creative spirit in both writing and facing life's challenges. Think of the flow of nature and go with the seasons. Sunshine all the time will bore us.