"Anxiety is the interest paid on trouble before it is due." - Dean W.R.Inge
Human beings are the only creatures in nature who complain and feel anguish about a situation before it happens. When met with obstacles, other animals, insects, and plants just keep doing what needs to be done. They stay in their process toward progress to move beyond what gets in the way.
Consider aspects of resilience. Check out eggs hatching, roses unfurling, or seeds sprouting. Imagine if they wasted time with anxious thoughts. Nothing would hatch or bloom. Maybe they're just fortunate that they don't have the brain cells necessary for worry?
Many researchers argue that pessimism has its place and it offers a more realistic way to positive results. Barbara Held, psychologist at Bowdoin College, believes healthy doses of pessimism (defensive pessimism) become crucial in overcoming obstacles and achieving goals. If we accept the fact that things can go wrong, we can prepare for them. It’s the best offense for a positive outcome.
Become a balanced Optimist. Rather than thinking like the defensive pessimist, use your imagination to work for you in creating the best and worse cases. Ask, “In what five ways can I achieve success.” Write about it. Scribble notions as you consider all pathways and rocks in the road to your desired destination.
Preparation enables you to have a variety of responses ready. You have choices and do not need to persist with unsuccessful routes. These ideas will move you beyond the emotional reactions of the moment. You will develop healthy resilience as a result of your writing process.