Benjamin Franklin said, "Wise men don't need advice. Fools won't take it." Charles Shultz might have adapted Lucy's sign in agreement.
Most of the time no one heeds advice and would pay to avoid it. Active listening supports family and friends but individuals gain skills in problem solving by trial and error. Everyone needs experiences to gain knowledge.
If you must delve into the depths of another's concerns try these suggestions:
Avoid jumping in to solve another's problem.
Ask questions instead of providing solutions. Help someone think about the issues.
Share experiences and lessons learned without offering advice.
Emphasize how your experiences could be different or similar.
Encourage rather than judge. Avoid negativity.
Refer to professionals to impart knowledge about life skills.
Suggest resources in articles, books, or web-based information.
Communicate with encouragement.
Become an example and shine your light rather than direct with it.
Ask for 5 cents for no advice.
Write about ways to avoid providing advice and how to benefit from them.