"Anxiety is the interest
paid on trouble before it is due." - Dean W.R.Inge
Human beings are the only
creatures in nature who complain and feel anguish about a situation before it
happens. When met with obstacles, other animals, insects, and plants just keep
doing what needs to be done. They stay in their process toward progress to move beyond what gets in the way.
Consider aspects of resilience.
Check out eggs hatching, roses unfurling, or seeds sprouting. Imagine if they
wasted time with anxious thoughts. Nothing would hatch or bloom. Maybe they're
just fortunate that they don't have the brain cells necessary for worry?
Many researchers argue that
pessimism has its place and it offers a more realistic way to positive
results. Barbara Held, psychologist at Bowdoin College, believes healthy doses
of pessimism (defensive pessimism) become crucial in overcoming obstacles and
achieving goals. If we accept the fact that things can go wrong, we can prepare
for them. It’s the best offense for a positive outcome.
Become a balanced Optimist.
Rather than thinking like the defensive pessimist, use your imagination to work for you in creating the best and worse cases. Ask, “In what
five ways can I achieve success.” Write about it. Scribble notions as
you consider all pathways and rocks in the road to your desired destination.
Preparation enables you to have a
variety of responses ready. You have choices and do not need to persist with
unsuccessful routes. These ideas will move you beyond the emotional reactions
of the moment. You will develop healthy resilience as a result of your writing
process.
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